Nuts and Bolts to Parenting: “Three Ways to re–think our Home”

16 08 2011

 

This article is for husbands and dads! As you pull into your driveway and look at your home remember these three things:
1. Our home is to be our family’s place of refuge, but our workshop. – To often dad’s consider home to be the place where they come home, kick back and relax. Phyically rest is to happen in a home, but spiritually speaking every Godly dad should consider their home a workshop.There are projects living within our homes that need dad’s attention and spiritual guidance. We ought to step into the home picking up the tools of discernment and the Word of God and start applying them to the needs of our family. The home where dad is working spiritually to guide and lead his family becomes a place of sweet refuge for those who live within its walls.
2.It is not a fishbowl but a magnifying glass! Very few will have a full glimpse into the workings of our homes. Even when we have guests we typically act better than we normally do. Our homes are not really fishbowls for all to see into. However, for those living within our home, the home is a magnifying glass showing all who live within it who Dad really is. Our wives and children see and know best who dad really is. The home has a way of magnifying our weaknesses and strengths. Don’t bolt from or disregard what the magnifying glass reveals. Instead, be honest, transparent and quick to fix what it reveals.
3.Our home must be a place our family enjoys not endures. Sadly, many kids (ie. teens) simply think of home as a place to endure. They count down the days until they can escape and free themselves. I continue to be challenged about my role in the task of making the home a place to enjoy. Here are a couple of things that really maximize joy in the home.
  • Keep sin out of the home!
  • Serve one another!
  • Keep the communication in the home clear, constant, and controlled.
  • Be creative!
  • Work hard at creating a “fun atmosphere” where pure humor (not sarcasm) is prevalent.


Characteristics of a Godly Missionary

14 08 2011

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In Acts 20:18-35 we see 10 characteristics of a Godly missionary. (These principles were part of the introduction to the sermon preached on August 14 in the AM service).

  1. [vs.18-21] A good missionary serves the Lord where they are now, not just where they want to be.
  2. [vs.19] A good missionary serves the Lord with a sense of privilege not pride.
  3. [vs.19] A good missionary endures despite the suffering and sacrifice.
  4. [vs.20] A good missionary makes the proclamation of Christ’s message of the gospel their primary task.
  5. [vs.22] A good missionary believes their call to missions is God’s will!
  6. [vs.24] A good missionary gives little value to his own life in comparison to the value he places on the will of God for his life.
  7. [vs. 25] A good missionary is willing to sacrifice the comfort of relationships to pursue God’s call.
  8. [vs.26-32] A good missionary is burdened for the spiritual condition of the people he leaves behind.
  9. [vs.33-35] A good missionary truly believes that it is more blessed to give than to receive.
  10. [vs.35,24] A good missionary serves with joy recognizing the tremendous privilege they have to give the gospel.


A Job or a Ministry?

5 08 2011

A shepherd understands a couple of things about his sheep. First, that they need constant care: they need to be fed, watered, contained, and doctored. Second, that they are prone to wander from that type of care and that they seldom say thank you for it. It should come as no surprise to us that in Scripture, God compares people to sheep. We also need constant care, but we are prone to wander from it, even buck against it at times; and seldom do we thank God for His care for us.

As representatives of the Lord Jesus Christ, God calls managers (who are God’s sheep) to serve more of His sheep. Quite frankly, those sheep to whom we are to minister often smell especially “sheepy.” Instead of thanking us, they fight against the things we are seeking to do in their lives for their good. Sometimes they even wander dangerously close to things that have the ability to destroy them. The “sheepiness” of the sheep can sometimes cause the one seeking to serve those sheep to begin thinking dangerously like this, “I wonder if there are any better behaved sheep out there that would treat me differently,” followed by,“You know it would be really nice to minister if only there weren’t any sheep,” and finally, “I can’t think this way; I wouldn’t have a job if there weren’t any sheep.” Did you notice what he did? He all of a sudden began thinking of his life’s work as being just a job.

When a manager begins thinking this way, he begins to seriously consider finding new sheep or just quitting. Often, he even becomes frustrated with his “job’s” benefit package, or lack thereof. The key to longevity,right attitudes, and continuing to serve with little temporal benefits is for a manager in ministry to see his life’s work as a ministry, not a job.

In John 10, we find the Good Shepherd’s discourse and two comparisons that He makes. The first one is His comparison between the thief and the shepherd. The great lesson that we managers can learn from this comparison is that our Good Shepherd owns the sheep. He paid for them and therefore has a different concern for them than the thief, who simply takes to have. Christ laid down his life for the sheep (verse 15), He saved them and takes care of them (verse 9), and He keeps them eternally secure (verses 28-29). In other words, He owns and cares for all sheep. A frustrated manager thinks he is the only one taking care of these sheep. He thinks that they are his ultimate responsibility (as though he owned them) and that if they wander or struggle, the responsibility to care for them and get them back on the right path rests completely upon his shoulders. What a tremendous relief it is for us managers when we recognize that the Good Shepherd owns these sheep, not us!

The second comparison we find in John 10 is between a hired hand and a shepherd. Many times a shepherd would get a hired hand to help him with some of his shepherding jobs; but the differences between the shepherd and the hired hand were that the hired hand fled when circumstances got tough and that he did not truly care for the sheep, as the shepherd did. As Christ’s representatives, we are serving as under shepherds for him; we are not just hired hands. Therefore, while we do not own His sheep, we are to do our best to care for them as He would, in His stead.

Our view of what we do affects how easily we quit the ministry. There is no question that danger, heartache, and frustration will be present with the job of caring for sheep. However, our response to those things demonstrates how we view what we do. The manager who is quick to think about quitting is probably looking at what he does as just a job—he is a hired hand. He thinks he is crucial to the job succeeding; therefore, if he does not see any success, he believes that he must move on. But the manager who faces the reality of shepherding sheep and continues on is one who recognizes that his is a ministry given to him by God, ultimately for his own spiritual growth.

For a number of years, I mistakenly thought that God had called me into the ministry because He needed me, or that the ministry needed me. But in recent years the Lord has shown me that I was prideful to think that way and that God actually called me into the ministry because I needed the ministry. I cannot afford to leave the ministry. I need it. It is God’s design to help me grow and develop into the man God wants me to be.

Another observation that we can make from this comparison between the hired hand and the shepherd is that our level of care for the sheep is dictated by whether we view ourselves as an under shepherd or as simply a hired hand. Notice John 10:14-15 and the extreme care the shepherd has for his sheep: He knows their names, and He is willing to lay down his life for them. Recently I watched a manager try to introduce his team, but repeatedly he found himself needing help remembering their names. A manager that cares for his sheep knows his sheep! If we were polled by those whom we manage, I wonder if they would be able to say that we truly care for them. I wonder if they would say that we would probably lay down our lives for them. If a manager sees what he does as a job, then the tasks, projects, budgets, and efficiency will always take precedence over the care of his sheep. But if a manager has a ministry that is characterized by his seeking to demonstrate the Good Shepherd’s care for His sheep, then he will listen to,counsel, teach, and get involved beyond the workplace with his employees.

The manager of a job sees the success of the project as his ultimate goal. The manager of a ministry sees the success of the people as his ultimate goal.

 



Identifying the Gaps Created by Growth Spurts

1 08 2011

A little boy walked into our church foyer and I overheard a man say, “are you expecting a flood?” I looked and noticed what he was referring to. The little boy evidently had hit a growth spurt and his legs were longer than his pant legs. You could clearly see the top of his shoes, all of his socks and the bottom of his cute little legs. His growth spurt had created a noticeable gap between the bottom of his pant leg and the top of his shoe.

Growth often creates gaps. When a ministry experiences growth, gaps can be created that are often overlooked by those in leadership but often felt from those within the ministry. A wise leader will fervently try to stay aware of the gaps in his ministries growth and carefully manage the ministry in light of those gaps.

Let me give you just a little of our current context and the background for this article. Our church has nearly doubled in size in the last two years. We have quickly grown in the last two years and we have become very aware of the gaps that have been created by this growth. We are in the midst of addressing these gaps and much of what I am doing as a pastor is helping lead our people through these gaps. Much of our initial problem is trying to figure out where the gaps are. The assessment was and has been much harder than I anticipated. So, to begin let me give this recommendation. Ministry evaluations should be done regularly and honestly. Our leadership has had to conscientiously sit down and look hard at our ministry. That has required us to make time for it and to put some issues to the side in an effort to give this some thought. As we looked it has been hard to admit that we had “gaps.” This has required us to say “yes, that is an issue” more than trying to defend or justify our gaps.

As we have evaluated we have used the following 10 questions as our guide in the evaluation:

  1. Does our growth appear to be short term or is their longevity to the growth we have seen?
  2. Are we focusing on the new growth to the expense of those who we had before the growth?
  3. What processes do we have that have not adjusted to keep up with the growth?
  4. Can we adjust our facility to better accommodate our growth?
  5. Do we have the right policies in place to adjust to this new growth?
  6. Who is struggling most with the new growth we have experienced?
  7. Are we properly helping our new people understand our mission and philosophy? (or, are we just putting people into positions to help us keep up with the growth?)
  8. Have we outgrown our abilities?
  9. Are there things we need to say no to in order for us do ministry better?
  10. Is our spiritual growth keeping up with our numeric growth?

Answering these questions takes time, but the time we are taking is helping us navigate our way through this growth. We still have gaps, and probably will continue to have them. However, the assessment process is helping us manage the gaps better than we were.



5 Blessings From Our Summer Internship Program

1 08 2011

This summer our ministry had the blessing of hosting two interns. They spent the last two months learning and serving in our church. It is amazing to see God minister to us through the people we minister to. Our church received a great blessing from our internship program. Here are just a few of those blessings:

1. We received the blessing of watching God slowly grow and equip two men for ministry – It was so neat to watch God transform two young men with raw skills of ministry and to develop them over the two months. Their first Sunday of ministry was “rough” as we watched them stumble through their responsibilities, but then by the end of the summer we saw them ministering with ease, confidence, and spiritual maturity. In a sense, God put us all on the front row watching Him transform both of these young men.

2. We received the blessing of having two young men minister to our children and teens – Our young people received a well prepared VBS program as a result of their work. Our teens were enabled to go to camp and be ministered to because they served with us this summer. Activities, discipleship, and example were all given to our kids as a result of this internship. Never underestimate the value of our young people seeing interns with a heart for serving God. That is a great blessing to us!

3. We received the blessing of investing in two young men who will now be able to continue to minister to others – God has a place in the future for these two interns. It may be in our church or another church far from here. Regardless of where it is we had the privilege of investing in them in a way that will better enable them to invest in someone else. What a privilege to see that kind of return on our investment.

4. We received the blessing of spending two months with two young men who want to do the will of God -There is no greater atmosphere than the one that is created by people doing the will of God. Selfishness and a preoccupation with self destroys atmospheres. Our church benefited from having people in front of us serving with a heart to do God’s will.

5. We received the blessing of having a Pastor invest personally in two ministry minded men – I believe I grew this summer as your pastor because of the time spent investing in interns. The discipline of teaching ministry philosophy and modeling ministry to interns sharpens me and keeps me growing.

It has been a good summer. I’m already looking forward to next summer and the opportunity to do this again. It is a blessing to invest in the next generation.